Moving away
Moving is never easy on anyone. Leaving the ones that we love, and making new friends is hard. Nevertheless, sometimes it is necessary, and can be new and exciting! If you or a loved one are moving away, or maybe you just moved to town, here are some tips from a counselor in Flower Mound, TX and Southlake, TX to help with the transition.
It’s ok to be upset
I think sometimes we think we have to be strong for our spouse, our kids, or even ourselves. You don’t have to be. Moving is hard. Change is hard. Sure, you will adjust, everyone will adjust, but it is a loss, and it is scary. Let your emotions out, and let people around you know that you’re having a hard time. Your child might think they can’t express their emotions, because they think it’s not bothering you. Once they find out that you’re struggling too, they might feel more open to letting you know their struggles.
Put yourself out there
I’m the queen of hating small talk. Trust me on this. So, when I tell you to put yourself out there and meet new people, I know how hard that can be. Parents, join a new club or church, or get involved in your kid’s school. Encourage your children to join a club or sport at school. Encourage them to invite people over to the house for dinner or a movie. It would be nice if people were warm and welcoming to new neighbors, and you didn’t have to make an effort to get friends, but this may not be the reality. And, if you’re like me, and you hate small talk, have a few topics in mind that you can talk about before hand (talk about a new movie, talk about a new area of town that you explored, or a hobby that you find fun).
Focus on the positives of the move and make it fun
Maybe everybody in your family is SUPER excited about making the move. If so, great! I’m jealous! In reality, there are probably some mixed feelings. Try to focus on the positives of moving, like new opportunities, the new sunny weather, skiing opportunities, new house/room, etc. Get your children involved in the excitement. Let them help you search when picking out your new house, go with them to explore the new neighborhood/town. Make it a fun new adventure, rather than a scary unknown adventure. If you’re excited, they will feel it too.
Goodbye isn’t goodbye forever
I think when we move, or get ready to move, we feel as though the life we have known and loved is over. Don’t get me wrong, change is hard, and life will be different. A few weeks ago, I talked about grief/loss, and making a move can be grief. Don’t make the move the end of a chapter, where you turn the page and end that part of your life. Keep the chapter going. Before you move, make a plan for a trip back to visit. Keep the line of communication open with family and friends. Inevitably relationships will change, but they don’t have to end. Include your old friends in your new life.
Stick together as a family
If there are any kids or teens reading this, please know that your family can be your support system during times of change and transition. While it may feel like your parents don't understand what you're going through, it's important to remember that they are navigating their own challenges and emotions as well. It can be helpful to lean on your family for support and talk to them about how you're feeling. Remember, your family is in this with you and can be a source of comfort and stability during times of uncertainty. Parents, it's important to try to maintain a sense of normalcy and routine for your children. Even though there may be a lot of change happening, having some stability in their daily lives can help your kids feel more in control and secure. Remember, your family is your support system, and you're all in this together.
Reach out to one of our therapists at Pineapple Counseling in Flower Mound, TX or Southlake, TX today!
